Robbie has been really into taking photos. And you know what? He is really good. Remember he is only 4 and half and is small motor delayed at a 3 year old level. I was not taking pictures this good until I was 12. I am posting a few for all to see.
Friday, October 31, 2008
My son the photographer
Robbie has been really into taking photos. And you know what? He is really good. Remember he is only 4 and half and is small motor delayed at a 3 year old level. I was not taking pictures this good until I was 12. I am posting a few for all to see.
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Good-bye Baby Corey
Karen's cousin Chrissy had her baby way too early. A tear in her lining made her give birth to a 1 lb baby, at 2 days less of 26 weeks. Baby Corey fought for a little over a week and passed away today. Robbie will never play with baby Corey like he played with Corey's big sister Caitlyn. Their will not be photos of all the cousins together. My heart goes out to Corey's parents Chrissy and Chris. Good-bye baby Corey, we never met you, but you are a part of our family forever.
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Update on us freinds and family
It has been awhile since we wrote and we have been busy with appointments and company. Karen's parents have been here for a week from Montreal. Robbie has been so happy, he hasn't seen them in over a year. His strong bond with his Grandfather, that begin at birth, has not been broken by the miles. They were always playing and cuddling. They leave today and he will be sad.
My dear friends more Montreal have been found not guilty of the child abuse charges. They had 4 professionals on their side. Their adoption of their son will not be stalled and will happen on time next month. That was the good news. The bad news is they feel like they can't trust anyone anymore. Worse of all they think the complaint came from a member of their own family. The therapist that works with their son, said they may get another complaint, because people don't always understand special needs children's behaviour (their son is being investigated for Fetal Alcohol syndrome).
Also, Karen's cousin had her baby at a little less than 26 weeks, a week ago. The little guy is making great strides, but he only weighs a pound. He is in our thoughts and prayers.
Robbie's assessment came back and his small motor and visual motor skills are considered only 34 months he is (4 and half or 54 months). And his sensory issues are getting worse. Every where else he is on target. We have an Occupational Therapist who is working with him weekly. So, we hope he will be caught up by kindergarten.
We are also working on Robbie's transfer for kindergarten. We feel our neighborhood school is wrong because it has a middle school. With having 2 Mom's I prefer he be in an elementary school environment. Being in the school system I know all that homophobic stuff starts in middle school. Robbie should not have to worry about that. So, I found a small elementary school across town, the kindergarten teacher enjoys working with boys with social problems and is pro gay families. So, I have my fingers crossed!
We started our training yesterday. Yesterday, was one of 2 all day sessions, along with 5 night sessions. I don't mind the night ones. I don't like the all day ones, I hate missing a whole day with Robbie. And to be honest I am not comfortable with how much they are building the birth parent up, it seemed to be the focus of the first session. I know depending on the child's age and circumstances they may have contact. We do not plan on taking a child with birth parent visits. And we want a much younger child, not a preteen or teen. This would work best for us and our family. I find it hard this discussion. I never knew my birth Mom until I was an adult. And the time I spent with her was damaging to be and my soul. She pulled me down and I decided to cut her off. After all she did give me life, but that's it. How long to you owe someone for that. I am glad she wasn't in my life as a child. She was a child herself. I don't thing she could contribute anything to my life, only bad examples and confusion. I won't even talk about my birth father (whose only contribution to her pregnancy was unplanned sex), Let just say he is in jail and the world is safe. I also, did not like to think of myself as adopted, my family was my family, I just came to it in a different way than my friends. I think today if a child is put up for adoption under the age of 5 and the parent is not fit and reunification is not possible, a break should be made. How confusing is it to be pulled between two families? I know the department disagrees with and have their stats to prove it. But, we all do not fit neatly on charts.
My dear friends more Montreal have been found not guilty of the child abuse charges. They had 4 professionals on their side. Their adoption of their son will not be stalled and will happen on time next month. That was the good news. The bad news is they feel like they can't trust anyone anymore. Worse of all they think the complaint came from a member of their own family. The therapist that works with their son, said they may get another complaint, because people don't always understand special needs children's behaviour (their son is being investigated for Fetal Alcohol syndrome).
Also, Karen's cousin had her baby at a little less than 26 weeks, a week ago. The little guy is making great strides, but he only weighs a pound. He is in our thoughts and prayers.
Robbie's assessment came back and his small motor and visual motor skills are considered only 34 months he is (4 and half or 54 months). And his sensory issues are getting worse. Every where else he is on target. We have an Occupational Therapist who is working with him weekly. So, we hope he will be caught up by kindergarten.
We are also working on Robbie's transfer for kindergarten. We feel our neighborhood school is wrong because it has a middle school. With having 2 Mom's I prefer he be in an elementary school environment. Being in the school system I know all that homophobic stuff starts in middle school. Robbie should not have to worry about that. So, I found a small elementary school across town, the kindergarten teacher enjoys working with boys with social problems and is pro gay families. So, I have my fingers crossed!
We started our training yesterday. Yesterday, was one of 2 all day sessions, along with 5 night sessions. I don't mind the night ones. I don't like the all day ones, I hate missing a whole day with Robbie. And to be honest I am not comfortable with how much they are building the birth parent up, it seemed to be the focus of the first session. I know depending on the child's age and circumstances they may have contact. We do not plan on taking a child with birth parent visits. And we want a much younger child, not a preteen or teen. This would work best for us and our family. I find it hard this discussion. I never knew my birth Mom until I was an adult. And the time I spent with her was damaging to be and my soul. She pulled me down and I decided to cut her off. After all she did give me life, but that's it. How long to you owe someone for that. I am glad she wasn't in my life as a child. She was a child herself. I don't thing she could contribute anything to my life, only bad examples and confusion. I won't even talk about my birth father (whose only contribution to her pregnancy was unplanned sex), Let just say he is in jail and the world is safe. I also, did not like to think of myself as adopted, my family was my family, I just came to it in a different way than my friends. I think today if a child is put up for adoption under the age of 5 and the parent is not fit and reunification is not possible, a break should be made. How confusing is it to be pulled between two families? I know the department disagrees with and have their stats to prove it. But, we all do not fit neatly on charts.
Tuesday, October 07, 2008
More bad news from Montreal
I found out today from our friends (the ones that have had a complaint against them) that a common acquaintance may be losing the child they were hoping to adopt. We first met these two ladies at a fostering with a view to adopt seminar 5 years ago. We did not pursue it as I was pg and didn't know it. They adopted a little boy who was placed with them at 4 days old. Last year these 2 mom's took in a little 18 month old in the fostering with a view to adopt program. They were getting ready to finalize the adoption when they got a call. The child is Cree and the Cree's have their own social agency for placement and adoption and they want the child and want it to be placed with a Cree family. I am all for kids being placed with families of the same cultural background. But, that should have been checked out a year ago, and papers signed before the child was placed. This is not in the best interest of the child.
All this is making me nervous. We have all our paperwork done and are awaiting one more document before starting training and home visit. It is a scary risk. This coupled with knowing a lot of people with babies. Part of me is still struggling with giving up being pg again and having a baby. I love babies. I watched DW hold a crying baby today while Robbie was in his preschool group, and soothe him. She was so good and so happy holding the baby. I thought I would cry. We loved Robbie's babyhood. I am excited to give an older child a home and Robbie a sibling close in age. But, part of me also wants a baby! Okay done having a tantrum.
All this is making me nervous. We have all our paperwork done and are awaiting one more document before starting training and home visit. It is a scary risk. This coupled with knowing a lot of people with babies. Part of me is still struggling with giving up being pg again and having a baby. I love babies. I watched DW hold a crying baby today while Robbie was in his preschool group, and soothe him. She was so good and so happy holding the baby. I thought I would cry. We loved Robbie's babyhood. I am excited to give an older child a home and Robbie a sibling close in age. But, part of me also wants a baby! Okay done having a tantrum.
Wednesday, October 01, 2008
Still Here
I have been MIA lately. Two reasons. First the good.
I have been working around the clock planning the launch party fir sjkid and making sure the site was ready for launch. I love this job. I am meeting the most amazing smart women. Women who have either do not work for pay (volunteer), work part-time or work full time with flex schedules. They have all found away to combine work and parenting, without sacrificing intellectual stimulation or quality time with their children. It is inspiring! The launch went well here are some pictures from it http://www.sjkid.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=354&Itemid=355
The bad. My wonderful dear friends in Montreal are having a major snag in their adoption. They have had been falsely accused of horrible things by a homophobic neighbor. They are the best people. They have an open house where people are invited to drop in at anytime and told to stay for dinner. They brought us fully prepared meal when Robbie was home from having surgery and we couldn't go out! They have 2 children one birth child and one who was about to be adopted by them. Both of them are special needs kids. They spend all their time at appointments seeing specialists to help the kids, mostly out of pocket. This is so unfair!
I have been working around the clock planning the launch party fir sjkid and making sure the site was ready for launch. I love this job. I am meeting the most amazing smart women. Women who have either do not work for pay (volunteer), work part-time or work full time with flex schedules. They have all found away to combine work and parenting, without sacrificing intellectual stimulation or quality time with their children. It is inspiring! The launch went well here are some pictures from it http://www.sjkid.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=354&Itemid=355
The bad. My wonderful dear friends in Montreal are having a major snag in their adoption. They have had been falsely accused of horrible things by a homophobic neighbor. They are the best people. They have an open house where people are invited to drop in at anytime and told to stay for dinner. They brought us fully prepared meal when Robbie was home from having surgery and we couldn't go out! They have 2 children one birth child and one who was about to be adopted by them. Both of them are special needs kids. They spend all their time at appointments seeing specialists to help the kids, mostly out of pocket. This is so unfair!
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